So when Henno suggested I write a little something for his blog, I was super stoked! I’ve been itching to start blogging myself but haven’t really gotten around to it. So, I decided to write about something I actually know a lot about… sex… Yes, I am actually quite knowledgeable in this area, trust me. So, let’s start with the basics today: this is Cunnilingus 101 – and no, it’s not some sort of sea creature on your plate…
Something that really pisses me off is when guys think they have it all figured out but when it’s time to go down on the lady, it’s a real let down. In some cases, even a moerse turn off. So let me give you some good old pointers in this department (most of you need it).
Firstly, make sure you know your lady is comfortable with you going down on her. Believe it or not, some chicks are actually quite shy about guys going down there with their faces.
It’s always a good idea to fish around for some pointers before the time (obviously you shouldn’t be an ass about it). Try and find out what kind of pressure she enjoys (hard licks or soft flicks of the tongue), does she prefer the use of your fingers combined with your skilled tongue or just tongue alone? Should you focus directly on her clit or is she one of those ladies who are more sensitive in that area than others? So, when you are armed with that info, you’re almost ready to make the journey down under…
Let me give you a few more tips and tricks to make the journey more memorable (for you and her):
1. She’ll give you guidance: Mostly a chick will ‘help’ you by making sounds if she likes what you are doing, or she will tilt/lift her hips to help you reach her sweet spot. So focus on her body language and allow her to guide you. Remember, she knows what she likes…
2. Create the correct atmosphere: Now, most guys will roll their eyes and give a moerse sigh when reading this, but for chicks (well most of us) atmosphere does make a difference. Maybe your lady reaches an orgasm easier with satin sheets under her body and candles to give that romantic glow in the background… think about it guys…
3. Get handy: Some of us gals like the combination of a man’s tongue and fingers. Now don’t get over excited and push 3 fingers in there and ram them like you just don’t care. Remember, it’s a sensitive area and you could hurt her and spoil the entire mood. BE GENTLE! Slow moves, find her G-spot, soft strokes in and around her vagina would get her a whole lot closer to an orgasm than you just ramming 3 fingers in there.
4. Write the ABC: Yes, the basics you learn in school can actually help you score a moerse lot of brownie points. Writing the alphabet with your tongue while giving oral sex results in different sensations that can only provide your chick with pleasure that will send her through the roof.
5. Experiment: Swop between licking, sucking and fast and slow movements until you can tell that she’s really enjoying it. Here are a few examples:
- Make small circles (like an 8) around her clit with your tongue – keep the rhythm slow and constant and the pressure very light.
- Make flick movements over her clit and alternate it with circle movements. It’s a good idea to place a finger or two inside her and stimulate her G-spot while flicking her clit with your tongue.
- Start at the top of her clit and lick your way down to the bottom part of her labia – If you don’t know what that is, you should not even be down there in the first place. Keep a constant rhythm but slightly increase the pressure until she climaxes.
- Alternate between a flat tongue and pointing it while you lick. She’ll enjoy the different sensations, trust me.
6. Touch her breasts: Reach up with your free hand and touch her breasts or just stimulate her nipples. Come on! You can do it…
7. Incorporate other tools. Don’t be a pussy… Be a real man and join forces with a vibrator or dildo to treat your lady to even more pleasure. In the case that one or both of you get bored, just stick your dick in and try something else.
After putting these tips to the test and realizing that you actually knew nothing before, you can thank me. Now go forth and get down and dirty with your lady. She deserves a good licking… Next time I’ll give the ladies a few tips and tricks about fellatio (in simpler terms it’s how to give a blowjob). Peace.
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